Hustler Girl's Blog

Wow I cant believe how quickly this year has gone. We are just a few weeks away from Christmas!

The shop has been quiet this year and I am trying my best to be positive and hope that things will be okay. No one said having your own business was without stress and worry but boy this has been a tough year. The shop is my only source of income and the turnover has dropped significantly, so much so that I havent been able to pay myself properly in the last few months. All very stressful especially when there are bills to pay.  It is not  a nice place to be. I’m trying my best to stay positive and say that things will be better soon.

It seems I’m not the only person in the adult industry complaining, other stores sales are down and even suppliers seem to be feeling the pinch. Not only the adult industry but many other industries are experiencing the same pattern. And knowing that another recession is imminent is not comforting either.

The shop is looking well stocked and ready for the Christmas season, but will people be spending money on items which are “luxury items” or ”nice to haves” ?

In the months that have passed I have also completed 3 more exams towards my BA Social Work Degree, I am waiting for results to come out early December.  I thought I would have completed my first year this year, however I did not know about 2 more subjects that were added to the first year curriculum so next semester I will be taking both first and second year subjects.  I know the studying is going to be a long haul but I cant wait to have a Degree and be able to make a difference.

Some exciting things for me to look forward to in the next few weeks:

• I am one of the guest speakers at a CtrlAltSex Fundraiser – Head on Head – where I will be talking about the health of masculinity. All proceeds will be donated to the Movember South Africa Initiative – raising awareness for depression, and prostate and testicular cancer.
• I will be attending a 2 day sexuality course facilitated by Professor Elna McIntosh. This will benefit me greatly both in my interaction with my customers as well as towards my studies.
• And the most exciting of all…..my sister and 3 year old niece Mia are spoiling me and taking me away to Cape Town for 5 days for some much needed R & R – a holiday I really need and could never afford to go on. I cant wait to put my feet in the beach sand, something so grounding about that, along with the waves and the mountain

Many people take things (health, family, friends, lovers, financial stability) for granted. It is sometimes frustrating for me to watch how some poeple do not appreciate what they have or feel unsatisfied with what they have, perhaps I am more aware because of the situation I find myself in. An important lesson which I try to remember is to focus on the things I do have rather then the things I do not have.

Some days are easier then others but the important thing is I am still here!

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This whole year I have been continuously sick and just as I start to feel better I get sick again. I have had bronchitis twice and developed a bad case of asthma.  Enter cortisone  I have been very down, depressed even, and have felt like everything is just such an effort (sigh!) . I don’t sleep properly which results in me waking up feeling totally exhausted.

I decided that I really needed to start looking after myself and worrying about me for a while. I decided to go for a vitality check up just to see where I was healthwise. Well I did get a shock when I was told my cholesterol is now sitting on 8.2. I am heart attack waiting to happen. My high cholesterol is hereditory though and I have known it is high and have avoided doing anything about it which is not very good. So off I went to My GP for some blood tests to see what my accurate  HDL and LDL levels are. I also had some other tests done to rule out a few things which may be causing me to feel the way I am feeling. So now I am on cholesterol lowering meds, more than likely indefinately.

My older sister has gone the healthy route and believes in using herbs to heal the body. She always sends me healthy recipes and information on the latest herbal things she is taking.

I came accross a group buying voucher for an iridology and sclerology consultation. I have always wanted to go for one and I decided I would give it a go. A small world indeed when I discovered the iridologist and sclerologist offering the consultation is someone I met through twitter ( never underestimate the power of social media) so I thought why not.

I arrived at my appointment with Rory Jean Jacques - SA’s Nature Doctor and I was quite intrigued as to what he would discover. Rory used a special magnifying glass to have a look at the iris of my eye as well as the sclera ( the white part) . He marked on a piece of paper all the areas of concern. The paper had the right and left eye printed on it which had the different areas that corresponded to the body mapped out on the eyes.

A few things were picked up during the consultation but one of the major things was that I had adrenal fatigue. Well this was fantastic news as it  explained why I was experiencing the symptoms that I had been complaining about. To put it simply I have burn out!

Rory mixed different herbs together which  I would need to take with a 1/4 glass of water every morning and evening until the bottle is done. The mix doesnt have the best taste but whatever is going to help me I will take. I have also started watching what I eat and going to gym more regularly. I am already feeling alot better then I was but think it will still take a while until I feel 100%.

I will be going to see Rory again once my herbal mixture is finished and then Im going do a live and dry blood analysis.

If you would like to have a consultation you can contact Rory here

I have decided to write this post as I have had many requests for the latest Hustler South Africa Magazine.

Well to answer the question ” Where can I get the latest Hustler South Africa magazine?”  Well … you can’t.

There has not been a magazine since last year November! and this  includes Hustler, Hustler Gold, Loslyf, Stokstyf.

Why?

Well this may be bacause of a few reasons:

Perhaps the Film and Publications Board have become too strict re the pornographic material in the magazine and what is deemed as acceptable content.

Perhaps magazine sales have dropped too drastically that producing the magazine is not financially viable.

or Perhaps the publishers do not have the financial means to produce the magazine anymore.

I think it is a combination of all three.

Pretty sad if you ask me.

Cleo Magazine July 2011

In the July Issue of Cleo Magazine 5 Female owned or run sex shops were featured, I was one of them Thanks Cleo for the opportunity!

If you want to see my Q’s and A’s read below.

Any weird customers? “I get unusual requests, but I suppose everyone has their ‘thing’. Recently I was asked for a bondage toy that gives electric shocks. Men and women most often want to know if I sell a product that will make women horny.”

What are your customers like? “They’re regular people like you and me – no strange people in coats … okay maybe one or two!”

What’s your policy on returning toys? “Due to our no returns policy, I encourage customers to look at a few options before buying. Batteries are put in all the toys and the customer can feel the different vibrations and textures of the various toys to see which is most suitable to them.”

 Bestsellers? “Men love the Fleshlight (1), which is a realistic-feeling masturbator, disguised as a flashlight. The Nomi Tang – Better than Chocolate vibrator (2) is very popular with women – it’s a clitoral stimulator that has a touch sensor for easy operation, and is ergonomically designed to fit the female anatomy and curves.”

Explaining the low down … “Many customers don’t have the first clue about how something works or where it should go. So I give them as much information as possible and answer any questions they may have. I make my customers feel comfortable by handling the situation in a professional manner, without getting embarrassed.”

What’s your personal favourite? “The bonus of owning an adult store is that I get to try out anything I like! My new favourites are the Mycero finger vibrators (3) from Feelz Toys. The pure silicone finger vibrators are soft and durable, and come in a pack of two. I’m definitely one for clitoral stimulation and I absolutely love the fact that the Mycero are small enough to use during intercourse.”

Advice for sex toy first-timers?  “I always recommend that if a couple want to introduce sex toys into their relationship that they come in together and have a look at what’s available, and then make an informed decision. There’s nothing worse than one partner going home with the wrong item and putting their partner off toys forever! I remind them that toys aren’t a replacement but an enhancer, and changing things up a little can definitely spice up their sex life.”

Any tips on toy shopping? “If you don’t want to come in on your own, bring a friend for moral support. If you really don’t want to come in you can always purchase online on our website (Hustlerextreme.co.za). All parcels are packaged discreetly and we offer a courier service to your nearest  post office.”

I went to collect my post the other day from my PO Box, something I do once a week. There was post from UNISA, my Tutorial Letter for my Comparative Religious Studies Subject. I opened the Tutorial Letter expecting to find feedback on the assigments for the year, which there was, but as I read further I saw a little section called “The Exam”. I  thought it was already feedback from the exam but I soon realised it was actually hints and tips for the exam! Yip there it was…. they actually gave the structure of the exam, that there would be 5 questions and we would only need to answer 4. Some of the questions were divided into subesctions. They indicated which sections you would need to focus on depending on which questions you chose to answer and the final question of the exam which was definitions they actually gave the list of 10 words of which only 5 would need to be defined with examples.

Wow this would have been freakin fantastic had I received this information before my exam! I noted the date stamp on the post which was the first week in May, my exam was on 1st June and I received the post this week! I even checked the Unisa Website before my exam to see if there was any extra information or Tutorial Letters and there was noithing. All the other tutorial letters were there but not this one. I think I am actually going to send through an email to complain. I know there is nothing Unisa can do about our shoddy postal system and late post but surely the tutorial letter should have been posted on the website?  

I am really annoyed about this as I couldn’t believe how much work there was to go through (ok I did leave it a bit late) and was even more frustrated when I arrived at the exam and the examiners only asked us 4 questions!

I will receive my results in July. Lets see how I faired without the information!

Yesterday I decided to use a voucher I purchased through the group buying website wicount for Puri Thai  in Parkhurst. I bought this voucher a few weeks ago as the deal was a very good one. The deal was that I pay R140 for a 1 hour Traditional Thai massage worth R300. I havent spoilt myself in a long time as finances dont allow for such luxuries but when I saw the deal I thought it was worth it and that I totally deserved it after the terrible two months I have had.

I called Puri Thai in the morning to make the appointment for later in the day and was happy that they did have space available. The receptionist asked if I prefereed a male or femal therapist. I wanted to go so badly that I didnt even give a second thought as to who I would prefer as my therapist and so I said either would do.  I must admit that when I put the phone down I did then start to think about having the treatment perfomed by a male therapist but didnt worry about it too much as a trained therapist is all that is required and I’m sure I’m not the first female to go there and be treated by the male therapist.

I have never had a thai massage and so I wasn’t sure what to expect. I arrived at Puri Thai and was immediately greeted with big smiles and made to feel welcome.  I did end up havng a male therapsit named Mark (i’m sure this is his western name ). He was so sweet and soft spoken. He took off my shoes and socks and started off by washing my feet. He then led me to the communal massage area, each massage bed seperated by long flowing curtains. The massage bed is actually a mattress on the floor. The area was so warm from the central heating and the massage bed had an electric blanket. The warmth combined with relaxing music and the light purple colour scheme immediately had a calming effect on me. There was absolute silence and I would never have known that there were other treatments going on around me.

Mark brought my my massage outfit for me to change in to. It was a white cotton shirt and pants. I liked the idea that I would be wearing something as I always feel vulnerable when going for a massage.

The treatment lasted for an hour and consisted of  Mark using pressure from his fingers, palms, elbows, knees and feet to stretch my muscles. Accoridng to the description on the price list this stimulates the body’s 10 energy lines, known as sen sib, which opens the flow of energy throughout the body. I had complained of a sore knee area and stiff neck and so Mark applied the Puri Balm which helps to balance the body’s energy while strengthening natural powers of healing. The balm smells like tiger balm and did take me back to my Doors Nightclub days 

In the hour I was there I switched off from reality and just enjoyed the experience. I felt so relaxed and was transported to my happy place.

After the treatment I was given a hot cut of tea which went down really well.

I enjoyed my thai massage experience which was a completely new experience for me. I didnt know what to expect and was pleasantly surprised. I would love to be able to go back there one day.

So the world was supposed to end on Saturday, apparently it didn’t! We are still here to live another day.

I must say the last couple of weeks have felt like they were leading up to the end of the world, or at least my little world. Things seem to be changing both in my life and the world around me. 

Business has been very quiet the last two months, and I just can’t believe how retail has dipped so drastically. It is almost as if the recession is hitting everyone now. I don’t know whether to put the dip in sales down to the fact that I have removed certain stock items from my store or whether the long weekends and leave people took in April had an effect on their spending power and that people just don’t have the spare money for luxury items. To say I am stressed out is an understatement. There are 7 days left of the month and I am not even close to the target I need to reach. I am riding on faith and hope at the moment that things will turn around and by some miracle the shop will reach its sales target and all will be ok. 

I find it very financially stressful at times but this is it for me for now,  the shop is my only source of income and I have to manage my finances very carefully in order to survive. How do other people do it? Boy wouldn’t it be nice to have some help, have someone take over the responsibility for a while….

I have an exam next week for one of my subjects which is Religions of the World. I did leave studying a bit late and have had to learn about all the major religions of the world in a very short space of time. I have found the subject matter to be extremely interesting and wish I would have taken the extra time to spend on each religion going through them properly. I have less than a week to finish making my study notes and then actually go through everything and study.  The other three subjects I have taken for the year I havent even touched. Talk about bad time management. I will have to get onto those as soon as I am done with my exam next week. The exams for thse subjects will only be at the end of the year but I have the second assignments to complete.

I am having a change of staff again. Seems three months is the popular departure time. The weekends guy got a permanent job position in Cape Town so he is off after the first weekend in June. The guy who works my week night and Saturday morning shifts is more than likely leaving at the end of June to go get experiential learning for his chosen profession of Journalism. Oh lucky me to have everything going on all at once. So I am going to be holding interviews again and lets see what comes my way.  My wish is for someone to stay longer than 3 months!

So I am feeling a bit down at the moment, just need to regroup, assess the good things in my life and the focus on the positives rather than the negatives and sure I will be right as rain in a few days… I sure hope so.

The last two months have been a really trying time with the story mentioned in my previous blog post. The supplier continues to try intimidate and bully me and really the owner and his “business partner”  are acting like children who can’t get their own way. Their behaviour is actually a tell-tale sign that they are desperate and that the wheels are eventually starting to fall off. They are mad and want to get even and instead of picking on someone their own size , they think they can intimidate and bully me.

They were the ones that came to me with their demanding upfront IMMEDIATE payment for the consignment stock I was holding or the second option they gave me was to return all their stock IMMEDIATELY and  that if I did not agree to ONLY purchase stock from them then they would not supply me at all. When they realised that things werent going the way they thought it would, they then gave me the option to purchase from them at a reduced rate but on a COD only basis. What fools, surely they should have thought about everything clearly and in a mature manner before just bursting in to my store.

The ”business partner”  came into my store last week knowing I was not here asked my staff how busy the store is. He then called me while he was in my store saying he can see all the stock I have in my shop and none of it is theirs and how can I purchase from other suppliers etc when I still have an outstanding amount with them. I told him  it is none of his business how I run my store and who I purchase from and what arrangements I have with other suppliers and that I had agreed to apye them over a period of time and that was that. He  felt it necessary to inform me that they had a “payment problem” from another store and they had that store/business sequestrated. I told him not to threaten me, can you believe it?  I mean seriously??? I have not disputed the fact that I have an outstanding amount owing to them and confirmed that that I am going to pay them off.

The next best part is that they are hell bent on opening a shop right on my door step. They want to “show me” and “destroy me”  you see. The owners made an appointment with my landlord and requested two shops in the same centre as me, one store down from mine. They were so desperate to get in to the building they offered the landlord rent right then and there and due the the fact that a) the landlord is loyal to his existing tenants and b) doesn’t need another adult store in his building, he declined their offer. When they realised that they were not going to get into this building they approached the leasing agents from the building directly accross the road from me. They have been running around telling other stores in the vicinity that they have infact already signed a lease and will be opening a store and will be competing with me and taking me down.

I did see renovations going on accross the road and assumed that what was being said was true. I decided before I took further action I would call the leasing agent for the store accross the road to confirm the signing of a lease. The agent informed me that they declined their offer and that another tenant is actually taking the shop. What idiots to run around telling people they have signed a lease. The funniest part is they actually owe other companies money and aren’t paying their debts but have money to open new stores.

I emailed the owner of the company acknowledging that I have an outstanding amount owing to them and that I would be paying them off at an amount I found to be financially viable due to the fact I did not anticipate an outstanding amount. He has replied demanding a more unrealistic payment amount as well as indicated to me that interest would be charged with immediate effect on the oustanding amount.  He also informed me that if an agreement could not be met he would then need to take the necessary steps… seriosuly?? Does he not think I can take my own necessary steps? He also wants to know if I would be buying stock from them , you see he says that no one in the area is stocking his stock ( i wonder why) and if I am not going to stock his stock then there will be a demand for his stock and you see this is his justification for opening a store on my doorstep.

All this rubbish over a bruised Ego!